Have you ever come to a point where you just explained and explained until blue in the face, yet some or someone still refuses to see what is staring right at
them? It simply amazes me how many are known to ignore what is right in front of them, yet still interpret what they think is happening when they are furthest
from the truth or lying to themselves.
Recently, I've re-discovered an old friend. What do I mean? For a while, we didn't speak. All in all, one thing lead to another and we let things get out of control without really listening to one another. As a result, both of us had said things about one another which we pretty much didn't mean. We were upset, frustrated and were looking for anyone to sympathize with us and our perspective of what we believed happened. The truth is; we just didn't want to let go. We were hoping someone would substitute our loss. So we said whatever to others to prove to ourselves, we didn't want to have anything to do with one another.
Unfortunately, when you have a situation like this, other people get involved. People take sides and understandably, some will be misguided by one's attempts to discredit the other. These third parties can either leech on and stroke one's ego and even encourage one's dis contempt for one's anger and loss of friendship or become long lasting friends who will help one move on, yet allow one some room to any possibility to make amends. Sadly, some tend to encourage animosity and then turn on one if they decide to take a chance in making amends of an old feud. Why? Because they are insecure that they will lose the very thing one thrives on... which is one's animosity and dislike for things or people.
Strangely, there are a lot of people who enjoy animosity and making trouble for others. They enjoy talking about people behind their back (or right in front of them), and then they have the audacity to wonder why one decides to have nothing to do with them.
All I can say is... a good friend is something one shouldn't waste. No one should make another feel like they are being duped or tricked because one is willing to make amends with others. No one should disrespect ones wishes by talking nasty about them and making wild assumptions and accusations about them.
If something is a mystery to you. You might want to look within, first, to make sure you're not denying what really transpired to make you think it's a mystery. It's quite possible that you do know the truth, but refuse to admit your part in it. People just don't pick up and leave or stop responding to one another for no apparent reason. And most of all, it's quite possible they did reach out to you once, twice if not more times to explain what went wrong, but you you refused to see what is right in front of you.
But yeah...life is a mystery!
Recently, I've re-discovered an old friend. What do I mean? For a while, we didn't speak. All in all, one thing lead to another and we let things get out of control without really listening to one another. As a result, both of us had said things about one another which we pretty much didn't mean. We were upset, frustrated and were looking for anyone to sympathize with us and our perspective of what we believed happened. The truth is; we just didn't want to let go. We were hoping someone would substitute our loss. So we said whatever to others to prove to ourselves, we didn't want to have anything to do with one another.
Unfortunately, when you have a situation like this, other people get involved. People take sides and understandably, some will be misguided by one's attempts to discredit the other. These third parties can either leech on and stroke one's ego and even encourage one's dis contempt for one's anger and loss of friendship or become long lasting friends who will help one move on, yet allow one some room to any possibility to make amends. Sadly, some tend to encourage animosity and then turn on one if they decide to take a chance in making amends of an old feud. Why? Because they are insecure that they will lose the very thing one thrives on... which is one's animosity and dislike for things or people.
Strangely, there are a lot of people who enjoy animosity and making trouble for others. They enjoy talking about people behind their back (or right in front of them), and then they have the audacity to wonder why one decides to have nothing to do with them.
All I can say is... a good friend is something one shouldn't waste. No one should make another feel like they are being duped or tricked because one is willing to make amends with others. No one should disrespect ones wishes by talking nasty about them and making wild assumptions and accusations about them.
If something is a mystery to you. You might want to look within, first, to make sure you're not denying what really transpired to make you think it's a mystery. It's quite possible that you do know the truth, but refuse to admit your part in it. People just don't pick up and leave or stop responding to one another for no apparent reason. And most of all, it's quite possible they did reach out to you once, twice if not more times to explain what went wrong, but you you refused to see what is right in front of you.
But yeah...life is a mystery!
